Friday, June 15, 2012

DAD'S ADVICE ON JOB HUNTING

This is another excerpt from my book, "Permission For Greatness". I thought I would share it with you on this blog. Look out for the book in the next few weeks online and in Bookshops.

“The economy will improve and you will definitely get a job” –Dad, some years back.

I was going through a transition just after my teenage years. Jobs were difficult to come by. I was disillusioned about life, fearful about the outcome of it all. My greatest fear was going back to the village to dig in order to make a living. I cannot complain that there was no one to give me guidance and solace, dad was readily available. However, dad in his pure and well meaning heart consoled me saying that the economy of the country will improve and there will be openings in the job sector soon.

Much as that calmed some nerves, it did not serve the purpose anyway. I needed something practical that I could work with. You cannot blame dad with his reasoning can you? He was and still is a victim of the 'Reverse Order'. If he had known better, he would encourage this old boy to pursue his dreams. If he had this resource (Permission For Greatness) in his hands, he would mentor me, seizing a golden opportunity of my transition. He would know that at the moment when this old boy was facing a big fear, that would be the right moment for him to sit me down and impart 'the blessing' upon my life. He would know that at that semi-traumatic moment, a serious paradigm would easily be installed in my psyche, never to be tempered with. What a chance that was for receiving 'Permission For Greatness!'

He would talk to me about wealth; he would talk to me about success, significance and wealth. Of course he would still talk to me about life itself, that the punctuation I was experiencing at that time was just that, a punctuation and not the whole story of my life.

Our focus on the government improving to create more job opportunities is good, but does not give us the direction that we need. It keeps us locked in the beckoning light of the ROLE, while at the same time totally negating the PERSON. I believe that when the ROLE is not here, we should keep working on the PERSON, specifically their potential as we ‘wait for the economy to improve’.   

This is a more powerful way of waiting for jobs, building our capacities and unleashing our potentials than dropping CVs all over the place. We need to look inside of us and around us. We need to focus more on the spark that lies within us than we focus on the government of the day improving. I believe that no government on the face of the earth is formed to specifically and directly involve itself in my permission of greatness. The best they can do is to facilitate, create an enabling environment, offer peace within the borders and regulate markets. We can therefore never fully bank on the governments of the day if we are to be great. We can never wait on them to improve, we must improve our very selves where we can.

One thing all job seekers need to ask themselves is this: What value are they adding? No, am not talking about the name of your degree; am talking about the value you are giving to the world. Please do not say you are looking for any job...that is the height of mediocrity, I tell you!

Finally, all parents out there: paradigms have shifted since the last time you were in school...do you have a different plan for your child's education or are you still waiting for the government to improve the current education system? SELAH.

Monday, June 4, 2012

WHAT DO THEY CALL ME?

I might call myself any name I want to...but I will be called after what I have done, period! Why is Ben Carson called the top neurosurgeon? We all know of his breakthrough genius in brain surgery. Yet at one point in time, this guy was called, and actually came to believe that...he was dumb! The ironies of this world!

You have probably seen people's profiles online. People love titles...big titles. We all do, don't we. For some reason, behind that title waving culture, there is this deep need to feel significant. In fact, of some of the seven (I think) paramount psychological needs, being significant ranks higher. I picked up a book from a friend titled, "Don't  Waste Your Life" by a guy called John Piper ostensibly because of the following words at the back of that book:

"John Piper writes, "I will tell you what a tragedy is, I will show you how to waste your life. consider this story from the February 1998 Readers Digest:  A couple 'took early retirement from their jobs in the Northeast five years ago when he was 59 and she was 51. Now thy live in Punta Gorda, Florida, where they cruise in their 30 foot trawler, play softball and collect shells....' Picture them before Christ at the great day of judgement: 'Look, Lord. See my shells.' That is a tragedy.
Probably, the inherent need to avoid the 'tragedy' makes people from all walks of life to seek 'titles.' I have however found out that no matter how many titles you put on yourself, it will never be worth its salt if you cannot back it up with some weight.

In other words, you call a healer One who heals. You call a painter one who paints. You call an entrepreneur one with who initiated businesses by seizing opportunities. You call an author one who has written books. You call a blogger one with a blog that is actually being read. 

I think the biggest question on the whole 'title' business is this: At the onset of everything...what do they call me? That is an important question worth reflecting. Two things here: There is a time and a place where you could care less what someone says you are. This is when you are shaping your own life, taking a specific direction. At this moment in time, if I call myself an author, it is what I do on a daily basis towards this end that matters, not what people say! Tragedy is titling yourself and not working towards that title. That is a mark of mediocrity.

The second thing is this: When they start calling you by what they see you, you know that you are not standing on the same level with them. You know that you have a platform. You know that you do not need to introduce yourself...your fruits advertise you. When people start calling you what they are calling you because of what you are doing...something has shifted. From calling yourself to people actually doing it...it is a major step. 

Most importantly, when people actually call you by the title you desired before you had anything to show of, it shows that you have been congruent and true to your 'calling'. It is what I do in between titling myself and people calling me by that very title later on that matters.

I have realized one thing...titles can both be limiting and stretching. One way or another, you are either calling yourself something...or people are calling you something. When those two merge...purpose has been created. My question is: What do they call you?

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