'Opportunity Does not Knock Twice' is Half a Truth!

Do you know the one time when there is lots of hope all over the world? It happens across the world each year, it is a phenomenon! Nope, it's not a religious holiday. I am not talking about Easter, neither am I talking about Christmas.

It's not an American Holiday, so I am not talking about Thanksgiving. I am not talking about Eid. But there is this one day where people from all walks of life, young and old, in all the continents around the world share an unprecedented moment of hope.

You guessed it. It is the new year's day. Each year celebrations are carried around the world like no other day. People count down the minutes and seconds together. Never mind that Australia always does that ahead of everybody else, but the rest of the world joins religiously few hours later.

Have you ever asked yourself why this is the case? Have you ever asked yourself why there is so much inspiration at the beginning of the year to plan, resolve, dream and envision greatness?

There is just one answer to that question. The only problem we have is that we do this just once a year. Think of all the positive energy that we generate when we are celebrating crossing over, starting over another year once again? Think of all the hope that we give ourselves when we get this psychological start. You would think that January 1st has a different color from the other days!

The truth however is that it has the same value as the previous day...and the next day. It does not have less hours...or more hours. It does not have a different make up to it, it is the same as yesterday and tomorrow.

The reason as to why we all celebrate is simple. We have just allowed ourselves another opportunity to:

• Be better,
• Start over,
• Dare,
• Achieve a dream
• Dream a dream
• Make it right

...and so on.

The fact of life is that all the days of our lives, we will have those moments when things do not go the way they are supposed to...or at least the way we planned them to. We have an option here....or at least two options.

First, we can stick it out with what we are doing...trudge along with the negative results that we are getting while afraid to count the costs and change the strategy...

Second, we can accept the reality on the ground, wave the white flag of surrender and declare another 'new years' day with an opportunity to start over...this time round with better information!

Some people will tell you that opportunity never knocks twice...well they are just 'motivating' you to grab chances when they show up, but they are wrong! Human beings are alive today primarily because of millions upon millions of 'second chances!'

When you hit a crisis, you can call it quits...or you can embrace the newness of the moment to start over again. This way, we can give ourselves hope at any moment that a crisis hits us. They say that a crisis has two meanings:

1. Danger
2. Opportunity

Sadly most people look at the danger and fail to notice the opportunity.

It is my admonition that you would look at your crisis with the reality it serves you today, but also endeavor to embrace the new opportunity it affords you to start over.

How you can do that is another story...in fact, it's a whole book titled 'Setbacks to Comebacks' coming out

at the end of the year.

Do you believe in second chances?

THE 7 MISTAKES I WISH I NEVER MADE AS AN EXPATRIATE

“In times of change the learners will inherit the earth, while the learned will find themselves beautifully equipped to deal with a world that no longer exists.”~ Eric Hoffer

Being an Expatriate is something I never in my dreams imagined would happen to me. I never even set a goal to be one. It happened as an overflow of dominating my Genius. There is a very strong message in being focussed and more than enough in nothing else but only what you know.

You have absolutely no idea where it would take you.

My time for living in the overflow of my Genius happened some time towards the end of 2008. When I was summoned to the C.E.O's office, I honestly did not see it coming. I had been in bad books last time I was in that office...albeit instigated by someone...but this was different.

Anyways, long story short, in December 2008, I flew to Kampala Uganda ostensibly to champion a product that had never ever appeard in that market since creation...Mobile Money. Looking back nearlly four years later, there are several things that I wish I would have done better. If I was given the opportunity to do it again, I do not think I will repeat these mistakes ever...neither should you.

1. Thinking that I am the Expert and Refusing to Learn: No doubt I knew so much about the product than any other person at that moment in time. The biggest mistake I did was not having a mental shift that opens me up as a learner...and not as an expert. Expatriates should be the biggest learners of all. They only know a fraction of a percentage in exchage to the vast knowlege available in the new territory. Knowing What I Now Know...I will humble myself to learn.
2. Staying HeadStrong and Refusing to Unlearn: This is by far the biggest mistake I did. I thought that the way I did things in my country should be the exact same way I should do...and have others follow suit. This was a mistake. In the end, you end up being frustrated for once...and secondly, you end up alieanating the very people you should work with by making them think that they are stupid. It is kind of dictatorial to think, "My way or the highway!" Knowing what I Now Know, I will always seek to unlearn some mindsets in a new environment.
3. Magnifying My World above "theirs": It is very easy as an expat to think, "It's all about me, I am the hottest property in the country...dont mess with me!" That is pride..and sometimes it is so subtle you would not even know it is there. My attitude as an expat should be that of humility and servant hood, not of a Master or a Headteacher over scared pupils. Knowing what I Now Know I will always put 'them' first over myself and seek ways to make them better people.
4. Magnifying the bad, not heralding the good:  I remember becoming so cynical looking for what was 'off' to laugh about. I remember posting on social media such weird things as 'Day and Boarding Driving School'...which actually existed, as well as photoz of waiters in a restaurant who were literally sleeping. It is a choice I made. However, there are millions upon millions of positives that I never really heralded. That effectively denied me the benefit of enjoying the best kept secrets in the country. Knowing What I Now Know, I would be a treasure hunter as an expatriate.
5. Incessantly Comparing them with myself and finding them wanting: This attitude is a killer of productivity. It is very easy for expats to compare foreigners to themselves...and the systems of the country they are working in with their native countries. This is a mistake. Before you can board that plane...you need to know that differences do exist...and you will always find 'them' wanting on your scales if you judged 'them'. Knowing what I Now Know, I would seek to understand 'their' difference and see how best we can synergize with mine for the greater good.
6. Not Researching about the Country I am going to Work in: Assumptions and presumptions are killers shrouded in pride. Thinking that I know all I need to know and not making any attempts to study my new environment was at best...stupid! You cannot thrive without information. You cannot thrive by awkwardly standing out...sometimes fitting in is extremely crucial just like standing out can be. Knowing What I Now Know, I would seek to understand their social dynamics, demographics, history and even politics for better synergy. Conversations are important for success...the best content for conversations are facts about whom you are conversing with!
7. Not Learning Their Language: Speaking of conversations, I would really have done well mastering the main language of communication. I have a major weakness here...seeing that I dont like conversing in my mother tongue. Learning 'their' language would have given me off as committed to their betterment...and besides, it would have taken me places where my fluent and borrowed English wouldnt in decades! Knowing What I Now Know, I would strive to understand aspects of 'their' language of communciation that would result in better connection.