ANCHORED TRANSITIONS

Change is the only constant thing in life, every other thing changes. Speaking of which, it reminds me of this statement: Men marry women hoping that they wont change, and they do, women marry men hoping that they will change and they don't! Life will never ever be a constant. Life is always an adventure, and the earlier we anticipate that adventure the best prepared we will be for the seeming ups and downs that it has to offer.

Sometimes we are squeezed into a corner to make a transition. Other times we take calculated risks as we take life by the horns seeking to move from our comfort zones.  Amazingly, our brains were created to keep us safe. That is why whenever something outside of the norm happens, the brain reacts by sending resistance. It desires to keep you safe within the confines of the known, understood comfort zones.

Transition and change is so real to every human being. Everyone falls into the following categories: there are those who have just come OUT of a transition, there are those going THROUGH a transition, and there are those going straight on INTO a transition. This covers all and sundry and leaves no one behind.
Whether forced into a transition or taking calculated risks, managing transitions is one of the most important skills that a visionary should muster. The following points will be of great help:

• One of my affirmations goes something like this, "I am successful in all that my hands find to do in the interim of living my dreams". The fall back position is Purpose. Like a mighty ship anchored ashore, ones life purpose will help you keep steady as you undergo a transition. You see, the Life Purpose you have at the moment is the anchor for your life. That is why even if for some reason you might find yourself doing what you do not like, you will always have the knowledge at the back of your mind that 'this is temporary, am waiting on my Life's Purpose'. So keep waiting on it, though it tarries, it shall come to pass. Wait on it. Les Brown says it best: "To persevere in hard times, you will have to call on your deepest purpose"
• Realize that a transition is seldom the place to make long-time life assumptions. Just because it is not raining right now does not mean that there will be a drought the whole year. You can never make a life-time decision that has permanent long time far reaching effects in your life at a temporary valley of transition. Remember, it is not as bad as it seems. On the same token, you cannot judge yourself and heap loads of regret upon your life for what you did or did not do. That will not help you in transitioning at all.
• At the time of transition, tune into a Higher Power that knows more than what your finite mind fathoms, that sees further beyond the horizons of your finite mind. It is tragic to listen to your mind, or brain whose sole purpose at the time of transition is to fight it and make you safe. Someone said, "A ship docked at the shore is very safe, but that is not what ships were meant for."
• Ride the waves. The biggest mistake people do in a transition is to try fighting what is happening. Some times all one needs is to stand still...and let the transition take place. Let your focus be on what you want, and not on the uncomfortable transition that you do not want. Someone said that whatever you resist, persists. Again, Les Brown admonishes us thus: "In the prosperous times, build your pockets. In the tough times, you strengthen what is in your heart".
• Open your inner heart to learn. There have been poems that have been written so precious when the human soul has been crushed to such an extend that nothing impure emanates from it. A transition is normally a great learning curve. Instead of rebuking it and fighting a transition, take pen and paper and be very attentive to learn. By all means make sure you learn. If you do not, chances are that you will not graduate. You will drop out prematurely. The problem with that set up is that you will still be required to face the transition until what needs to be learnt is learnt fully.

The attitudes above when adopted will make a transition palatable. Learn to PLAN your life because a transition is always inevitable. Learn to PLAN your finances to purchase you TIME whenever a transition season comes unexpectedly. Be strong and resilient, hold your head up high, soon enough, there will be light at the end of the tunnel.
Have a great week wont you?

THE ILLUSION OF NOW, THE MIRAGE OF THEN

Being in a position to help someone in a predicament they are in can offer lots of insight. Especially when they have no Idea that you have the wherewithal to help them. There is no human being living that has never come to a rocky patch in their walk of life. In fact, this happens very often to those great souls who dream big. In a previous post we talked about the finite mind and the infinite mind. The infinite mind is definitely not limited with any empirical force we know.

This mind is not human to say the least. I have heard from the good book "...for as far as the heavens are above the earth, so great is the difference between may ways and yours...." That is a paraphrase. Today's post goes out to all those visionaries (and non visionaries) who are caught up between a rock and a hard place. Great, you have been told to dream and dream big. You have been motivated to suspend reality and THINK BIG. You have been encouraged to have a BHAG (Big, Hairy and Audacious Goal)...and you have been obedient on all counts. However, you find yourself wondering 'whether this stuff works after all'. The things, events and people surrounding your immediate environment depict a picture that is totally far from what you want your reality to be. In fact you feel like the opposite of what you want is taking place.

Mind games. It is a mind battle. If you choose to focus on the negatives of the now, you are not being wise. You are only accessing the finite mind, limited only to see as far as the horizon. The finite mind has no control over situations that seem to overrun you, and that is why you need not trust your limited mind, ESPECIALLY when things are tough. Reach for a higher vision, dream on and hold on.

However, more often, the other 'reach' that people grasp in valley moments is to relegate life to the future. We wrote sometime back that about 'happily never after'. This is where the problem lies. Granted, hope will take you through today, but by all means, never suspend the LIFE of the NOW...in the hope of LIVING some time later on. It is always a mirage. You keep reaching for a sizzling life then, at the expense of living right now.

My advice is for us to acknowledge all that is going through now, and tune in to a higher Mindset that sees far greater and wider than we ever could. Yes, we need to have dreams and visions for tomorrow, but by all means there is something you can do today.

I leave you with what Helen Keller said:

"I long to accomplish a great and noble task, but it is my chief duty to accomplish humble tasks as though they were great and noble. The world is moved along, not only by the mighty shoves of its heroes, but also by the aggregate of the tiny pushes of each honest worker".